Amberly Lago: Never Give Up | E118
Amberly Lago: Never Give Up | E118
Regardless of the situation, always have true grit and grace!
In this episode, we are chatting with Amberly Lago, best-selling author, speaker, podcast host, and health coach. She started her speaking career after her life was deeply altered and her world was completely changed in May 2010. While riding her motorcycle in Woodland Hills, CA, she was hit by an SUV and thrown thirty feet down a busy street. Her right leg took the brunt of the impact and was crushed almost beyond repair.
Despite an incredibly difficult recovery process, being a former professional dancer, athlete, and fitness trainer, she was determined to not only save her leg, but her career, her dreams, and her dignity. After a lengthy hospital stay and 34 surgeries, doctors were able to fuse her leg together and repair her severed femoral artery despite the one percent odds of saving it and the initial recommendation to amputate. Her life experience and the proven strategies she has created to understand and maximize resilience resonate with companies whose core values include perseverance, grit, passion, and team building. And for audiences living with chronic pain (like her from CRPS) she delivers a powerful message of hope and offers solutions at conferences, workshops, and clinics.
In today’s episode, we discuss Amberly’s upbringing, how she survived abuse as a child, the importance of forgiveness, and how to most past self-pity. We also dive deeper into the repercussions of her car accident, how to pace (not push) yourself through pain, and how Amberly starts her days off with reminders of gratitude. Amberly’s story is incredibly powerful and inspiring – you won’t want to miss this episode!
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01:11 – How Tough Love Shaped Amberly in Her Childhood
06:08 – How Amberly Survived Sexual Abuse
15:48 – Amberly’s Take on Forgiveness
19:39 – The Way Amberly Moved Past Self-Pity
24:49 – Amberly’s Adult Life as a Single Mom and Her Accident
34:15 – How Amberly Deals with Chronic Pain and How to Sensitive
43:08 – Where Amberly Got Her ‘Grace’ From
47:51 – The Way Amberly Starts Her Day
51:40 – How to Pace Yourself Through Pain
59:05 – Amberly’s Career Evolution
1:09:52 – Amberly’s Secret to Profiting in Life
Mentioned in the Episode:
Amberly’s Website: https://amberlylago.com/
Amberly’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amberlylagomotivation/
Amberly’s Podcast, True Grit and Grace: https://amberlylago.com/podcast/
Amberly’s Book: https://amberlylago.com/book/
#118 Never Give Up with Amberly Lago
[00:00:00] Hala Taha: [00:00:00] You're listening to YAP Young And Profiting podcast, a place where you can listen, learn, and profit. Welcome to the show. I'm your host Hala Taha. And on Young And Profiting podcast, we investigate a new topic each week and interview some of the brightest minds in the world. My goal is to turn their wisdom into actionable advice that you can use in your everyday life.
No matter your age, profession, or industry, there's no fluff on this podcast and that's on purpose. I'm here to uncover value from my guests by doing the proper research and asking the right questions. If you're new to the show, we've chatted with the likes of ex FBI agents, real estate moguls, self-made billionaires, CEOs, and bestselling authors.
Our subject matter ranges from enhancing productivity, how to gain, influence the art of entrepreneurship and more, if you're smart and like to continually improve yourself, hit the subscribe button because you'll love it here at Young [00:01:00] And Profiting podcast. This week on YAP. We're chatting with Amberly Lago, a health and wellness coach, best-selling author, podcast host and TEDx speaker. As a former professional dancer and athlete, Amberley logo's life was turned upside down at 38.
When she was hit by an SUV, the tragic accident left her in a coma. And the doctors told her she would never walk again, but Amberly being Amberly found the strength and preservations to walk again. And she did much more than that too. She's now a leading expert in transformation and wellness, and she speaks in stages all over the world to offer hope and solutions for those struggling through life's obstacles or dealing with chronic pain.
She's also the bestselling author of True Grit and Grace: Turning Tragedy into Triumph and the host of True Grit and Grace podcast, which I was lucky enough to be a guest on. And this episode Amberly and I will discuss her amazing healing journey and how she overcame countless challenges that were thrown her way.
She'll share with us her piece or methods so we can turn our tragedies into [00:02:00] triumph. And we'll also go over her morning routine and understand how she gets the grace to go along with her grit. Hey, Amberly! Welcome to Young And Profiting podcast.
Amberly Lago: [00:02:10] I am so excited to be here with you. Thank you for having me.
I've been looking forward to this for a while now. This best way to start my day.
Hala Taha: [00:02:19] Same here. I came on your podcast. It was such a great episode that I replayed it on mine. You're so talented.
Amberly Lago: [00:02:26] Thank you.
I saw that I was like blown away and I shared it too.
Hala Taha: [00:02:31] I know I saw. Thank you. It's so nice to talk to somebody who like just makes you feel warm every time you speak to them.
And that's how I feel with you. We've had multiple interactions, a couple of meetings, you were on a clubhouse panel that we also had on the podcast, and you're just such an inspiration. So I'm so excited for this conversation and I just can't wait to get started. So let's bring it back to your childhood.
From my understanding, you grew up in Greenville, Texas, and a pretty small town, 20,000 [00:03:00] people, 50 miles outside of Dallas. And you're a tomboy from my understanding. You were a tough cookie growing up. And so I want to understand what your childhood was like and how that tough love really shaped your character.
Like the tough love that your family gave you and how that shaped your character.
Amberly Lago: [00:03:17] Oh, thank you. You just took me back, girl. But it's so funny. Yes. I was a tomboy. I remember when I was about 18, I went on my first dance job. I was booked for a job. I grew up a dancer and I think my mom put me in dance because it was the girly thing to do.
Texas was like all about the pageants and being a Southern Belle. And there I was wearing combat boots and my brother's old jeans and a white t-shirt. And so when I went on my first dance job at 18, I remember there was one of the girls that I was working with, that she taught me how to wear makeup.
And so it was the first time I [00:04:00] ever really started wearing makeup or anything like that. And I'm grateful for the struggles that I had as a kid, because. It really did develop, not just the grit that I have today, but it also really taught me about gratitude and the value of the dollar and how important it is to really work hard for something that you love.
Because, there were seven of us kids all together we'll to, or my stepbrother and a stepsister. So they lived with us in the summers, but there were seven of us in my. We didn't have much money. So if we wanted something, we had to work for it. I just had a conversation with one of my daughter's friends.
Who's a little bit older and she was upset because her parents wouldn't let her spend the night with her boyfriend. And I'm like you need to get your driver's license. You need to get a job. I said, that's freedom. So for me, I knew like I had [00:05:00] big dreams. I knew by the time I was really probably eight years old that I wanted to move to California and be a professional dancer.
That's when, an MTV came out and I know, a lot about that and I saw these music videos and I thought, wow, I could actually get paid to dance and do things that I love. And so I knew the only way I was going to get to do that was if I worked hard, saved up the money. And so I worked four jobs.
I was a lifeguard, a babysat, I taught dance, I worked at this little place called the cookie jar and I was able to save up $1,200 and packed up my little Suzuki samurai, that was the car that I'd saved up money to buy while I was making payments on it. And I think it was not only this deep passion that I had for dance, and I really wanted to go after my dreams, but I also didn't [00:06:00] have a safe place growing up.
When my mom remarried, I was sexually abused by my stepfather. And so I knew I had to get out of there. And so I think I was fueled by my passion. I learned grit from my brother, beaten the crap out of me growing up. He bless his heart, we're friends now, but that was tough, but it taught me how to defend myself.
And it's one of the things that got me into Krav Maga and boxing and muay thai but I think all those things combined really pushed me to move out here. Despite a lot of people saying you'll never make it. What are you doing? You, who do you think you are? You're just some small town girl. You'll never make it in the big city.
And I was there. I had to make it because I was not going to go back and live in that small town. [00:07:00] Under the roof with someone who abused me emotionally, sexually, physically. And I think sometimes that pain can motivate us to do things that are sometimes scary, but it's which is more scary being in that situation or going after my dreams.
And so I chose to go after my dreams and here I am in California. Gosh, 30 years later, I'm still here. I love it here.
Hala Taha: [00:07:27] Wow.
Oh my gosh. That's, there's so many like ways we can take this. I want to stick on the sexual reuse with your stepfather, because that must've been so hard to be living under the roof of somebody who was abusing you.
And from my understanding, like you didn't tell your mom for a while, you didn't really tell anyone for a while. So what was going through your head and try to take yourself back there. And I know that's probably going to be difficult, so share as much as you feel comfortable. Try to take us back there and then [00:08:00] give your advice in terms of what would you tell a young woman going through the same thing right now?
And how would you tell her to deal with it?
Amberly Lago: [00:08:08] There's a lot of shame. There's a lot of fear that just goes along with the sexual abuse and for a long time, I couldn't talk about it and it actually. I've thought that I had dealt with that trauma and it wasn't until I started writing my book that I realized, oh my gosh, things that I thought that I had really emotionally processed, I realized I was just running from my whole life.
Like I ran really ran, physically ran. I became like a track star set a record in Texas, but I also ran. I ran to California and it wasn't until I started really doing some of the emotional healing work with therapist, with writing, meditation, prayer that I started to [00:09:00] heal. But during that time, it's really confusing as a kid because and I look at my daughters now and when my oldest daughter turned eight and then when my youngest daughter turned eight years old, I didn't realize.
Things were coming up and I suddenly became this like big mama bear. And it's because that's how old I was when the abuse started to happen. And I was confused because I trusted my stepdad. And when someone tells you that this is okay, and this is how dads teach their daughters. In your gut that it doesn't feel right.
And when you speak out on it and they say you're wrong, it really there's this disconnect. It teaches you not to trust your gut. And so it's been a long process of really learning to trust my gut. And the thing is, our heads might tell something, our heart mutts tell something, but our guts never [00:10:00] lie.
We know that feeling when something's right or wrong. And I was scared because I was so young. And he said, I will kill your mom if you tell anyone. And I believed him. So for a long time, I didn't tell anyone and I just never felt safe. And I finally got the courage to tell my dad, and that was right.
Hala Taha: [00:10:24] Your real father.
Amberly Lago: [00:10:25] My real dad.
And that took so much courage because like I said, you feel like it's your fault. Like you're damaged. I felt broken. I felt so much shame. And, but I was so scared and I didn't want it to continue. I went to my dad and I told him, and I said, dad, please you can't tell anybody. Promise me you won't tell anybody.
But because he said he'll hurt mom he'll kill her. But, and my dad never told anyone and he never did anything. And [00:11:00] that was so hard because I felt not only did I feel okay at first, I'm not protected. I'm not safe. I felt unworthy I'm not even worthy enough for protection. I'm not even worthy enough for someone to stand up for me.
And that's all I really wanted was for him to go in and save me. But you know what? It taught me. It taught me that we have to save ourselves, that we have to stick up for ourselves and it taught me I'm going to have to really take care of myself. And it wasn't long after that, that I remember it was the last time my stepfather ever laid a hand on me and I was in my room and he came in my room and I, he grabbed me by the head and pulled me back.
And this is probably a lot to share, but pulled my head back, pulled my hair back on the bed and I kicked him. Oh, I didn't mean to get emotional. You know what I thought I'm off. And that [00:12:00] was the last day he ever laid a hand on me again. And I think that goes along with and I'm not saying you shouldn't always use, kicking and screaming, but sometimes I think maybe have to, but he never laid a hand on me after that.
And there was a lot of emotional, I remember he would look at me and say, my mom would be doing the dishes and he would mouth to me. You just wait until your mother leaves. So I never felt safe and safety. I think we all just want to build safe. We want to feel loved. We want to feel seen and heard.
And so my default became to do something that made me feel good. Thank goodness. I think it's so important for kids nowadays, especially to have something, to have an outlet. And for me, I'm so grateful. I had the [00:13:00] outlet of athleticism. I turned to dance. I became a straight, a student and a bit of an overachiever.
I was our member. When I graduated from high school the principal called my mom and said, your daughter has won every category. She's been chosen for class favorite, most likely to succeed most school spirit, miss Greenville high school, she can only choose two. So let her choose two of the two things that she wants to be nominated for.
And so I think it shows that, even though things may happen that are just horrible and heartbreaking and hard that we have a choice to do something that brings us joy, despite our circumstances that we don't have to. Even though that brought a lot of shame for me. [00:14:00] We don't have to live in shame.
We can walk with our head held high and we can overcome things. And just because some bad things happen doesn't mean that we're broken. It means that we can heal and we can be resilient and we can get through those things. And I would say to anyone that is going through something like that, there's so much more nowadays, but thanks to social media where people are talking about it, it's not such this big dark secret and
I would say, reach out for help. And if the first person doesn't help you, then they're just not capable of helping. And, my dad did the best that he could and it wasn't until actually I wrote my book and I let him read the manuscript and I didn't want to hurt anybody when I shared this part in the book.
But it ended up being the most healing thing that came out of my book was I healed my relationship [00:15:00] with my dad. And we were able to talk about those moments and, he had a really rough childhood and I was able to break that cycle of abuse and trauma by speaking up and having a voice.
And now I talk to my daughters about that. So they know that no, it's never okay for anyone to touch you in an inappropriate way or say inappropriate things. And I teach my daughters, it's okay to cry because for the longest time I didn't cry. So I'm grateful for these tears, because I think from the age maybe 10 to, I think I was 25, I never cried.
And it wasn't until one day I was at the airport and I'd missed my flight. And my oldest daughter, I dropped my bags and started crying and she said, mommy, I didn't know you knew how to cry. And it was because my stepfather would look at me when I cried. And he'd say, see, I [00:16:00] got ya. I knew I had the best of you.
I knew I could make you cry. So now when my daughters start to cry, I'm like, you cry. Let it all out. Those are healing, tears, let it out. There's a time to get gritty and, suck it up, served me well for a long time, but there's also a time to really let those feelings come up so you can process them and feel them.
And so I would say to anybody going through any sort of situation like that, reach out for help. There's so much support now. Thanks to social media.
Hala Taha: [00:16:34] Oh my gosh. And really thank you so much for sharing that. And I know that was difficult, but I think you've probably helped a lot of people and inspired a lot of people with that story.
So let's talk about forgiveness. Did you forgive your stepfather? Did you forgive your mother for kind of not allowing it to happen, but not being aware enough, to know it was happening and how did you deal with that?
Amberly Lago: [00:16:57] Forgiveness is it sets [00:17:00] us free. It's the gift that we give to ourselves actually.
And for me, I never, and I've had therapists say you must be upset with your mom. And honestly, my mom is such an incredible mom. She worked so hard. She had kids, she put food on the table. She, most of the time had two jobs at one time. And it's hard to see everything that's going on. And with five kids with two step-kids that she had, I can only imagine, and so I have never held any sort of resentment or anything for her.
I hold such gratitude for her. In fact, when I had my own kids, I didn't know that I could have more gratitude for her, but she had a lot of guilt about it. And so I said, mom, I'm healed from that I've done. And I know someone has said, when you [00:18:00] cry, it means you haven't healed. And I'm like, I don't know if I believe that.
I think that, I don't know if you can ever completely 100% heal something like that. I think it's always things that will come up and you realize, that's a layer that I need to work through or an emotion I need to work through. And so my mom and I have a really great relationship where we can talk and but she did, when I let her read the manuscript before the book was sent to the publisher, she said can you, I wanted her to have an opportunity to have her say in the book.
And she said can you write in there? If I could have done this, I would have done this. If I knew about the abuse. And I said, but mom, this isn't a book about coulda, woulda, shoulda. It's a book about, this is what happened. And this is what I have done because of it. And so in other words, things don't always go as planned, these are the cards I've been dealt and I'm going to choose to play that hell out of these cards.
And so I think it was really healing for her [00:19:00] as well, forgiveness with my dad. I didn't realize that I did need to forgive him for that time when I was a little girl and I just wanted to be rescued and saved, but I've, I have, like I said, been able to really have meaningful, deep conversations. And I think that's part of being resilient and moving forward is when you can have those meaningful conversations, that really matter that are hard.
They're not so easy, but when you can have those conversations, that count. So it's been a difficult process, but a very rewarding journey because I have the kind of relationship now with my dad that I've always wanted to have.
Hala Taha: [00:19:45] I'm really happy to hear that. And I know that it probably helped you, which we'll get into a bit later on when you faced a lot of different setbacks with your health and everything like that.
I'm sure going through really traumatic experiences like that and coming out the other [00:20:00] side taught you how to overcome setbacks, even if you didn't realize it, then, even if you didn't realize that you had built that kind of strength within you. So let's talk about self-pity because a lot of people have things happen to them and they are stuck in this self-pity and they just feel sorry for themselves.
And, woe is me. How did you decide that you were going to be stronger than that and focus on the present, the future, and not your past and just feel sorry for yourself.
Amberly Lago: [00:20:31] You know what? I think we've all been there. We've all had days where we're like man, this sucks woes. May you know why me?
I, whether we've lost a job or, our husband cheat on us or, my husband didn't my first husband did just wanting to make that clear. But I remember sitting in the hospital bed. And I was having that pity party. I was like, oh my [00:21:00] gosh. It was the moment when I was watching an infomercial about how to get a Brazilian butt.
And I remember watching that commercial and I was a fitness trainer. I was sponsored by Nike. I was nationally recognized as a fitness coach doing infomercials the day before I had a horrific accident. I was doing a fitness video. I had, I was on the labels of vitamins. So if you walked into CVS or Rite aid, you'd see my picture with my daughter for this vitamin company called hot mommy.
And so I was sitting there going, oh my gosh, staring down at my leg, which was held together with these metal rods and completely exposed. I can see the inside of my leg. I had tubes coming out, both arms and a pic line that went straight into my heart. And I started thinking. Wow man. Oh my gosh.
I'm never going to have a Brazilian [00:22:00] butt what if I never wear a bathing suit again? And it became this roller coaster of emotions of what if and what if my husband never loves me? What if I never walk again? What if today's the day they're going to amputate my leg? And I was like, I am crashing hard.
Like I, and then I realized, we have a choice. We can keep going down that road and it's okay to have those feelings and have that pity party. We just can't stay there. Or it will change the rest of our life, the whole course of our life. And so I thought, instead of why me what's next. What can I do?
So that's when I grabbed this little notepad that I still have. And I started writing down everybody that had come into the hospital to see me to give me gifts and food and flowers, every nurse that was taking care of me. So I wouldn't forget their name when they walked in to, to take blood or whatever.
And [00:23:00] I noticed how it really started changing the way I felt, instead of looking down at my leg and feeling sorry for myself, I started thinking about how blessed I was for still being alive. And this morning, I think one of the reasons I'm so emotional is today is actually the day that 11 years ago I was hit by the SUV.
And so today I take this day and celebrate life that I've been given a second chance. And I think that every day is a day for all of us to choose, to celebrate life and the quickest and easiest way to get out of that victim mentality is to think about how grateful you are. And there's always something to be grateful for, but I think we can have that victim mentality and say why me?
Or we can have the mentality of a Victor and say, what's next? Why [00:24:00] not me? Maybe I can heal and show others how they can walk through those difficult times too. And so gratitude is something I practice every morning. And this morning, I also write to my sponsor. I've been sober for five years. This journey took me down a dark path where I started trying to drink for pain.
And I actually wrote to my sponsor this morning gratitude. And on top of that gratitude list was you that I got to be with you on your podcast because it's such an honor because you're somebody I really look up to, especially with all that you've done with your life and your hard times. And I'm just grateful to be here with you.
Hala Taha: [00:24:45] Oh, Amberly. I'm so grateful for you. This is just like a love Fest. Wow. I'm honored that, you're spending such a powerful day for you with us on the podcast. And I don't want to like bulldoze over this really important [00:25:00] story and turning point in your life when you got into this terrible accident.
Like I was meaning to actually tell that story to our listeners, because I think it's so powerful. So you went to California, your career blew up, you're a dancer, you are an MC hammer music video. And that was your big break. You said you were sponsored by Nike or on the you were like on vitamins and vitamins.
And like people would see you in stores. You became recognized as somebody really dominating in your field of fitness and dance, and you did it on your own. Like you told us, you basically ran away from home 18 years old and did it on your own, which is just so amazing. And then everything was just like it sounds like you just had a wonderful life from 18 to 38.
Amberly Lago: [00:25:47] I was a single mom for a long time.
Hala Taha: [00:25:50] Tell us about, tell us that period. 18 to 38 and then what happened that day?
Amberly Lago: [00:25:54] I think that I had worked hard to build my career as a dancer, [00:26:00] and then that transitioned into fitness in between. Then I met my ex-husband who my family was not very approving. Sorry, Savannah, my daughter, if you listen to this, her dad I'm grateful for, because he gave me my beautiful daughter, but he had hair down to his butt.
He was a rocker. I didn't know. At the time he was had a little bit of some addiction problems, but he was a bad boy and I had never had a bunch of, I never dated or had a lot of boyfriends. Like I said, I was a tomboy and I didn't even develop grow and fill out a little bit until after high school actually.
And so I met him and he swept me off my feet. That was very short-lived. I got pregnant three months after meeting him and I got married when I was eight months pregnant. And I was really a disgrace to my family because I grew up in the Bible [00:27:00] belt and I was living in sin. And so I decided at eight months to marry him to make it right.
Even though I knew again in my gut that this is not going to work out, but I was pregnant and I was trying to do the right thing. And so I think I married him because I wanted the approval of my family. And that was the right thing to do. We were divorced by the time she was a year old. He was cheating on me, his it, I won't throw him under the bus completely, but it wasn't good.
And so I was a single mom for years. And my oldest daughter used to go to work with me and she would hide under the little office cubicle in the cubicle, under the desk while I would train clients. She learned how to be a lady and sit and have manners because I had very high end clients in Beverly Hills that were very well to do.
And I was always [00:28:00] invited to their galas and their parties and their tea parties and they would always invite me. I was there, what they called me was there a robotics girl. And so I would be invited and my daughter went everywhere with me. So she went with me and she learned how to sit and put a napkin in her lap and engage with them and have conversation.
And she also learned the hard work pays off because I was able to buy my first house again, after having lost everything, my ex-husband took everything. He took the house, he took my savings. He ran up my credit card bills. It was terrible. He destroyed my credit. And so I rebuilt everything and rebuilt this business.
It had, several trainers that worked for me. It was a big business. So she saw that how hard I worked through those moments. And I have to just say, I'm so proud of her because she just got [00:29:00] accepted to Yale. So she's going to be going to Yale. She wants to be a doctor. And I think that seeing me go through so many surgeries, I asked her, I'm like, what made you want to become a doctor?
And she's mom, You did seeing you go through 34 surgeries is. And so she I'm so proud of her. And so I, when I, life was good, when right before I had my accident, I finally met the man of my dreams. I thought I was going to be a single mom forever. I was good with that, but we were told that we weren't able to have children together.
Miraculously. We can saved. I have Ruby who is like my little mini me. She's a little athlete and a tomboy. And she's so much fun. And life was really good and my career was booming and that's when I was doing the infomercials and contributing to magazines, like shape and fit pregnancy. [00:30:00] And in a blink of an eye, everything changed.
And I think that's, like I said, one of the reasons I was so emotional because I was thinking, how grateful I am to be able to live life, to walk again. When I was told I'd be wheelchair bound to love again, when I thought, oh my gosh, is my husband going to stick with me through all of this? And so I just feel so blessed.
And I think sometimes it's important, we can get on that hamster wheel and everything can get busy. And we forget to think of just the little things that we're grateful for. And so for me, I'm just so grateful this morning to, I was like, I can get up and make coffee. I can't, and that's a lot of, instead of saying, I have to do something, when you say I get to do something, it just changes everything as well.
Yeah. So I'm proud of my daughter. I'm like for me, who I never even went to college. To have a daughter go to Yale is yeah, that's, [00:31:00] it's a miracle. It's amazing. It's hard work.
Hala Taha: [00:31:02] I'm sure it's hard work and you must be so proud and I'm sure your daughter looks up to you so much and just learn so much from you.
And honestly, I feel emotional in this interview because I just feel like God has chosen you. I feel like you've been through so much pain. And like unnecessary pain, like compared to most people in the world, like the things that you've dealt with, we didn't really get into it. But guys, she got into a very terrible motorcycle accident where an SUV hit her and they told her that she would have to amputate her leg.
And, she went to 34 surgeries and still has, a leg that looks different than everybody else's life. But you know what, she can walk, she can run, she can bike, and she focuses on the things that she can do. And like I said, I really think that you were chosen for getting other people out of their circumstances, like now you're bringing so much good into the world, even though you've been through the ringer, and it's just, you're so strong.
And I just [00:32:00] want to say that you're just so strong and you're just so resilient. And this is your purpose, like turning your pain into your purpose. That's what a lot of people come on my show say, and that's exactly what you've done.
Amberly Lago: [00:32:10] I think it can make pain can be, it has been a really big teacher for me because I used to grit growing up in Texas and being an athlete and a dancer.
And I learned a lot about grit, but I think it's also taught me about grace, about giving yourself grace, about listening to your body and understanding what you need and also about kindness and being kind to others and having compassion, and especially now with what's going on in the world, I was just at dry bar the other day.
I don't know if you ever go here and there. So they were so nice and they said, gosh, the lady at the front desk remembers you. She's you're [00:33:00] her favorite? I like, really, that's so nice. And she said it's because you're kind. And so many people come in here and they're not kind. And I said, yeah, people are going through a lot, but if you can look at it and understand that maybe they're in pain or they're going through a lot and have some compassion and some kindness, and that's that moment it changes everything.
And she said, yeah, but I wish everybody could be a little more kind. And I think it's so true. If you can just have some, a little more compassion, a little more kindness, it can change someone's day. It can change someone's life. And so I think that's what we need right now with so many of us going through.
Thank goodness. The world's opening up again. It's that's what gives me hope. Yes, I just did my first in-person event. And I was like, yes, I get to hug people. I get to be around people. But it just makes such a difference when we can connect with people with kindness.
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You found a doctor who would [00:38:00] perform surgeries for you so that you could keep your leg, but unfortunately it's left you with chronic pain, right? And I think it's called like the suicide disease or something along those lines. So tell us about chronic pain, how you deal with it, and maybe help us understand how many people deal with chronic pain and maybe like how we, as people who don't deal with chronic pain, how we can be more sensitive and like aware of the people that are suffering with them.
Amberly Lago: [00:38:26] Thank you for asking about that. Yeah. I just thought, especially being an athlete and being injured before and being a dancer, you get injured, you just work hard, you rest and you get better.
And I couldn't understand why my pain seemed to be getting worse. My leg was a different color. It looked besides being deformed and scarred. It just looked different. And I remember as someone, a friend of mine came over and he said, why is one leg, a different color than the other one? And I'm like, I don't know, it's hailing.
I [00:39:00] don't know. And then I went to one of my doctors and I thought he's going to be so proud of me because I'm standing up right on crutches. And they told me it would take me two years to be upright because my leg was just so crushed into pieces. And I went in to see him and he ran out of the office and I remember looking at my husband and going that's not the reaction I was hoping for.
And he comes back in and he said, you've got something very serious. And I said yeah, no, I've got something very serious. I was hit by an SUV, said no, you've got complex regional pain syndrome. Your life is never going to be the same. You're going to be permanently disabled. You need to go back home and get in your wheelchair.
And I was like how long do I need to stay in my wheelchair? He said, Forever. And I was crushed. I thought this cannot be the rest of my life. And so I did probably the worst thing that I could do was I went home and I [00:40:00] Googled what complex regional pain syndrome was. And it's the suicide disease.
There's no known cure. The pain is ranked highest on the pain scale and you will, your life will never be the same. It was horrible. And all the pictures that came up. And so that really led me to a place of denial. I was like, that's not me. I did not want to look at it. And I think that. No matter what we're going through, unless we really take a look at it and we get, take radical acceptance for where we are.
That's when we can really start to take action steps to feel better. And so there it's the numbers, not for CRPS, but people with chronic pain, the numbers are crazy. There's three out of five people, or I think three out of five that are live with chronic pain. And the chronic pain is when something that is, last for a long period of time.
For me, it is sometimes feels like there's a biscript around [00:41:00] my foot. It's a disease of the sympathetic nervous system. So it's where you're your nervous system is all out of whack and there's a constant loop of pain. I've tried everything from a spinal stimulator, ketamine infusions, Eastern Western medicine.
I was on 73 homeopathic pills, like literally handfuls of pills, a day, 11 different prescription medications, and nothing was helping with the pain and nothing helps except really the thing that has the most impact made the biggest difference was resilience. And that's something that we all have. And so I had to figure out ways to be more resilient and that is really not a pill.
It's not one thing I do. It's mind, body spirit, and it's a mind, body, spirit transformation. And so for me, it's really about, it starts with mindset and until you can get your mindset right. That's when you can [00:42:00] start to say, like you were saying earlier about the, why me, when you can get out of that and say, okay, what's next?
When you can start to switch the soundtracks in your head, but the soundtrack of saying, I'll never work again. I'll never be cured. I'll never, I'm deformed and you can switch that to something, a positive affirmation, even if you don't believe it right away. You start to believe it, if you repeat it and it's powerful, if you say it out loud.
So I think it's really important to look at what you're telling yourself, because we can be our own worst enemy or we can be our biggest cheerleader. And then I think it's so important to surround yourself with people who are positive because, and I say this because when I first got diagnosed, I had doctors tell me you need to get in a support group.
You need therapy. You need to get on this antidepressant. Antidepressants did not work for me. I tried several different ones and I know they weren't great for some people, but for me, they, I threw them up. I [00:43:00] was sick every day and I thought, I think I'll just, I know if I can move my body, it'll move my mind and I'll feel better because.
Moving your body releases, endorphins, that combat pain. When you're in pain, sometimes you're scared to move. You don't want the pain to get worse. There's a there's oh, you have to see how much you can move before, cause more pain. And then you also have to think about how you can rest so you can recover, but moving your body is essential and it not just releases endorphins.
It makes you more confidence. It makes you feel capable. So for example, when I was in the hospital, I couldn't even use the bathroom on my own. I had to use. And that's a humbling experience when you have to use a bed pan, but I knew if I could just. Try to do things to make me feel stronger, mentally, physically, and spiritually, I would be better.
So I asked the doctors, if they could install a pool at Barb over the bed, I had one of my [00:44:00] friends from the gym, bring me some dumbbells. And so I was doing curls from an upper body. I was lifting myself up, both for my bed pan, which the nurses loved by the way, they're like, oh good. She can take care of herself, but I did everything I could to make me feel like I was moving in the right direction.
And so if you're in pain, it's so important to start where you are used, what you have and do what you can even that's if that's a little bit, and that's a lot about what I share, like even on my social media, is things that you can do to start switching your mindset, to start feeling better physically.
And so it's, I changed my eating and it changed my life. I cut out alcohol. I started drinking everyday when no medications or anything was working, I was like this wine kind of numbs, the pain kinda helps me stuck down these feelings a little bit. And I have a family history of addiction [00:45:00] and I knew, oh my gosh, how am, how did I start drinking every day?
How did this happen? And so I knew I needed help from that. That was like a vicious cycle. So it's so important to ask yourself, what's work is how's that working for you? Is that helping you or is it hurting you? Is it moving you closer to your goals or further away? Is it causing more pain or is it causing you to be like more resilient, more power, more empowered?
And so I think it's a process of so many things of shifting your perspective of being an acceptance of having a community of people around you, of getting gritty and tapping into your purpose, having a purpose, and then also resting and really recovering that's so important, getting enough sleep.
Cause I used to just hustle, and it's we need to have downtime so we can not just rest our bodies, but [00:46:00] also spark creativity.
Hala Taha: [00:46:02] Oh, my gosh. She just gave so many awesome gems. I love how you talked about moving your body, because that's also what you did when you were younger to get out of your pain.
You focused on dance, you focused on fitness and running and everything like that to just get over your pain. And so that's definitely something that I feel like you probably learned from your younger years. So your podcast, your book it's called True Grit and Grace. I think that it's very clear where you got your grit from, but I'd love to hear the grace piece.
Like where does grace fit into all of this and how can we be graceful when we're trying to overcome our adversities?
Amberly Lago: [00:46:39] Oh, thank you for asking. And the grace part is something I think I learned the hard way. I always grew up going to church and I, I had a God in my life, but I really cut God out.
And I was all in my ego, which ego stands for, I think edging God [00:47:00] out. And so I'd lost that connection to my higher power. And especially when I started drinking for pain and that just really disconnects you from, and whether you believe in God for me, it's God, or whether you believe in universe or higher power.
My good friend, Shannon always says, Gus, let Gus drive the bus. So God universe spirit. So I always remind myself, get out of myself, get out of my ego, get out of my own way and let go and let God. And I think when we know we're not alone on our journey, that's what allows me to have faith and what lies ahead.
But the grace part for me was when I was at my lowest point and I was really thinking, my daughters could find another mom, a husband could find another wife that I feel like by the grace of God, there was that spark, that [00:48:00] light, that little glimmer of hope that was left in me that took a lot of courage to ask for help.
And so by the grace of God, I did ask for help. And I think that changed my life. I think that you never know how, when somebody asks for help, that it could be that they're that saving moment for them. And so I learned that God was there all the time, just for me, I just needed to let God in. And so grace is for me that God has lifted the obsession of drinking that God has watched a man.
I have guardian angels. I swear they work overtime because I it's been a journey. I think I was hit by my daughter and I were hit by a car just in December and. Just this week, it's taken this long months that my daughter finally said, mom, you know those little razors, the little [00:49:00] scooters let's go for a scooter ride.
So it takes time to heal. And I'm like, God was watching over me and my daughter, then God is always watching over. And so grace, the grace is the grace that we give ourselves too, because I can be so hard on myself. My gosh, I can just beat myself up and tell myself I'm not good enough. Or who am I to go do that
Ted talk? Or who am I to be on your incredible podcast? You have you're the person I look to for what you're doing next for podcasting, because their podcast is like number one. And I can sit there and go, who am I to be on her podcast? But it's like the grace that we give ourselves that though, think about the hardest thing
you've when I'm feeling like that, I think about the hardest thing I've ever overcome. And I think. My gosh, if I can get through 34 surgeries, I can go stand on that stage or I can go talk in that clubhouse room or I can, go on the podcast or whatever it [00:50:00] is that you're scared of.
It's think about the hardest thing you've ever overcome. And for me, I really make it a practice to connect to God every day. So I start my day with a prayer and it's not fancy. It's not pretty a lot of times I just talk to God and some people might, I feel the most connected in nature.
Not necessarily in church, but so that's really the grace that I think that came into my life, the grace that I give myself, but I think it's so important during these times that we all give ourselves a lot of grace because we've all had to change and be flexible. And some of us have had to completely pivot all together.
So that's where the grace comes in.
Hala Taha: [00:50:44] I love that. And then from my understanding, you start your morning with a prayer to get you into the right mindsets. Could you share that with us? Like how you start your day to get you in the right mindset?
Amberly Lago: [00:50:56] Yeah. If I don't start my day with a [00:51:00] grounding myself.
Oh my gosh, I am all over the place. And so when you know, I want to grab my phone, first thing, I want to check Instagram. I want to check emails. I want to see what's going on. But if I do if you do that, you're pulled in a million different directions. It's you don't have a say so in your schedule, but when you start your day with your intentions and whatever morning routine works for you, I think that you have to figure out what works for you and stick to that and do what feels good.
Because if it doesn't feel good, if it doesn't bring you joy, then you're probably not going to stick to it. And so for me, what makes me feel better is if I start my day with a quick, it's a quick prayer, sometimes a long prayer before my feet hit the floor. Also a prayer throughout the day. And actually I have this on my desk.
It's the serenity prayer. And I love this because it doesn't have to be, it's not about religious, it's about [00:52:00] spirituality. And for me, it's, grant me the serenity to accept the things that I can not change the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference. And so I say that prayer, whenever I'm struggling.
But I also said, like I have a gratitude list and I write down what I'm grateful for. I write down what my intentions are for the day. So anything I do, whether, it's writing a post or making a phone call or, what. Coaching a client or being on a podcast or doing one of my podcasts.
I always think about what my intentions are and that is to bring hope and inspiration, to add value and to bring some love into. And then I think, it's important to have accountability for me that helps keep me on track. So every morning I read something out of usually a daily reflections book or some sort of a spiritual book, and I screenshot it and I take a picture of that and I send it to my [00:53:00] sponsor and she sends me something back.
So it helps when you think you're too busy and you can't do the, they're like, no, I'm going to be accountable to this person and I'm going to do it. So I think it's real important to have somebody, whether it's a friend, a best friend, a coach, a mentor, being a mastermind, hold yourself accountable. And also you're not alone.
I think for me, a mastermind and masterminding is what changed a lot for me, not just with my mindset, but with my business. So don't, you don't have to do it alone. And that's what I would say. Start your morning off getting grounded and know you're not alone in it.
Hala Taha: [00:53:39] Yeah. And for me this is one of the biggest takeaways of today's session is that you got to take time to work on your mental health and not just go to the thing that feels good, like pausing, taking time to reflect, taking time to be grateful.
All of that. My next question is about the difference between pushing through [00:54:00] pain and pacing through pain, because I know that you're really not a proponent of pushing through pain. So I want to know why is that the wrong approach? And then how can we pace ourselves through it instead
Amberly Lago: [00:54:11] you are so good.
I've never been asked that question. That's amazing. Yeah, because you know what I used to push through pain. And that's all I knew, growing up, I was told, oh, you're throwing up. Don't throw up on the track. My track coach would be like off the track to throw up and keep running.
My dance teacher would be like, I don't care if your toes are bleeding and your point shoes, the show must go on. And so my whole life, I pushed through pain, pushed through so much. And let me tell you, you can't really push through CRPS. CRPS is the hardest thing I've ever gone through. It's harder than the 34 surgeries because you live with it every single day and the pain can suck the energy out of you.
It can destroy [00:55:00] relationships. It can make you bitter if you choose, but we have a choice and it took me a lot. It took me down a dark path and to where I was having suicidal thoughts. It's called the suicide disease and I quickly learned why, because it's can be torturous if we allow, we don't have the proper tools.
And so I had a friend of mine asked me how do you, once I started doing these things that I do every single day to be more resilient, I had a friend say, how do you do that? How do you go get on a plane and go to an event? How do you continue to coach people and work when other people can't get out of bed?
And I really thought about it. And there are things that I do every day and we've talked about them, but I'll just share them really quick. So instead of pushing through the pain, I think, and some people get triggered and don't like the word pace. I know I didn't. And this all came about because my husband [00:56:00] told me
you need to pace yourself. And it pissed me off. And I thought, I don't, it's like when somebody tells you, you need to calm down, it's what? I'm not going to calm down. And so I started thinking I do pace myself and pacing for me is, and that's how I came up with the word pacer. And it's a quick reminder for me too, whenever not just pain, but whenever I'm feeling anxious or I'm sad, or I'm in a funk or I'm really tired.
And I'm like, what have I not done to be more resilient? And so you can be more resilient if you just do these five things. So perspective shift her perspective, the moment you start to feel crappy or anxious or sad or scared, like the quickest and easiest way to shift your perspective is with gratitude.
So I think about. What is one thing I'm grateful for this morning? I woke up my leg is really stiff from going to gym to the gym yesterday. And I thought, gosh, I'm [00:57:00] so sick of this pain. I thought, wait a minute. No, I'm grateful. I can walk because 11 years ago I was on life support with tubes going down my throat and a machine breathing for me.
So no I'm grateful. And it quickly, let me tell you, it really allows it's alchemy. It turns what you can't do and to what you can do and what you don't have into what you do have. Acceptance is the next part of pacer. Like we've talked about before you take radical acceptance, that allows you to take action steps to make your life the best that it can be.
And when you know, you start to share what you're going through and you get real, and it's hard to take a good, hard look at your life sometimes, but when you get real and you feel comfortable to share that with people that you love or trust, you start to build community. And that's the next part of pacer, because community might be the most important
part of pacer. I used to try to do it alone [00:58:00] and I couldn't together we're stronger. And that's something you do so well. You're always teaching people how to promote their podcast, how to build their platform, how to do you know, whether it's through your podcast or through clubhouse. I'm always amazed at how much
you share and you give and the culture and the community that you have built. And that takes endurance, which is the next part of pacer. And that is really where I think your passion and your purpose come into to play. It's, we're not always going to be motivated. And so if we can think about, remember why we started, that will usually light up a fire underneath us to keep us going.
And then the last part of pacer, which I wanted to leave off, I wanted to leave the R off and just call it pace because I'm still learning this last part, the rest part. [00:59:00] It's so hard for me, because I think in my mind, I used to think that resting meant quitting and I didn't want to be a quitter, but resting is really, if you really want to be resilient, you have to strategically stop.
You have to allow yourself to have times to recover and rejuvenate. So you can be more creative so that you can pause and then reflect on what you need to do. What are your next steps? It allows you time to listen to your heart and your soul and your intuition. And I think that resting is with so many people think of it as like a luxury or it's, but it's really important if we want to keep moving and we don't want to get burned out to take times to rest.
You can see more about in depth about the pacer method on my Ted talk that I did. And there's a link for it in my bio and stuff, but that's really what helps me. And I hope that it helps you next. [01:00:00] Anyone who's listening that get through a difficult time what are those things? And I've had somebody, one of my friends when I was freaking out, cause we had some fires here the other day and she asked me how I was doing.
I'm like, I'm freaking out. We might have to evacuate the horses at the barn. And she was like, texted one word back to me. She texted the word pacer and I was like, Oh, yeah. How can I share?
Hala Taha: [01:00:25] I love that. I think that is such a great rule of thumb for us to have as a guide. And I think that some of us might be really good at certain parts of that method, but then not good at others.
For example, I'm just like you, like the rest piece is something that I always skip over. I always just try to keep going. But it's important to rest. Be mindful, be grateful, take a break, enjoy yourself and not just bring yourself out to your point. So I love that.
So I also want to talk about the fact that you've transformed your career over and over a dancer to a fitness instructor. Now, your speaker, your podcast host four [01:01:00] years ago, you didn't even know how to use a computer. That's incredible. How did you teach yourself all of this? How did you overcome the imposter syndrome?
How did you evolve your career so drastically and become an influencer and all these different things that you are, it's so much different from who you were, 10 years ago. So how did you do it?
Amberly Lago: [01:01:20] Thank you, yeah. And I wasn't on social. It wasn't that long ago that I wasn't even on social media.
I started an Instagram just to really basically stock my oldest daughter and see what she was up to. But, I think to get over that imposter syndrome, I think first of all, that's just a feeling that we get when we know we're about to do something really big and important and meaningful.
And so if we can reframe it and that's what I do in my mind is okay, I'm stepping out of my comfort zone and I'm about to make some magic and I'm doing I'm moving forward. And so I want to say that you're who may ever, [01:02:00] maybe listening and you're not maybe happy with what you're doing or you want more out of life.
This is your sign to go for it. It's never too late. You're never too old. You're never too young. You're never, don't I used to think, oh I'm just not smart enough. I don't have a college education or, and I've had plenty of naysayers and you know what I always I've had, I've been an underdog for a lot of my life and that's, to me where I get a lot of my motivation is when somebody tells me I can't do something.
I'm like, oh yeah, really, thank you for that motivation. Watch me here I go. And so I think that when I think about the passion I had inside me was I wanted to give others the hope that had been given to me. I wanted to share, I thought if I can write a book and if I can show somebody that they can get through the most difficult moments that they can turn a tragedy into triumph that [01:03:00] they can never give up, then that will give my pain purpose that will make meaning out of going through the hell that I went through with my motorcycle accident.
And so I focused on that and I didn't fo what my intention was. I thought I'm going to write a book. And everybody was like, yeah. Okay. Fitness girl, you don't even own a computer. And our member, I was invited to go speak at this motivational series by Lorna Jane. And I'm not sure if you know who that is, but it's a big fitness line.
And they invited me to speak at this event for inspiring women. And it was me and these fitness celebrities and authors like Daniel LaPorte. And then there was me and the media rolled up and my picture was there. And I remember thinking, oh my gosh, all these people have these huge followings. And I had I don't know, 300 followers on Instagram, no [01:04:00] website, nothing.
And when I decided to write my book, I hand wrote. Probably 80, 90% of the book. And I remember when I had to send a picture to the event for Lauren and Jane, I didn't even know I was using my husband's laptop and I didn't even know how to attach a picture to an email. And I asked him, I was like, honey, can you teach me how to do it?
He goes, oh, what do you need now? And I was, I just cried. I don't know how to do this and you're not helping me. And I was like, that's it. I'm going to go buy a computer. I'm going to learn. So I went to apple, bought a laptop, took a class, raised my hand over and over and asked like, How do you, I didn't know anything about it.
I didn't know how to work it, but when the event came up for Lorna Jane and I realized, oh my gosh, if I'm serious about having a message, I got to get serious about learning, [01:05:00] how to get my message out there. So I learned how to use Instagram. I use bought the laptop. I typed up my book. I found a publisher.
They said we don't do marketing. I figured it out. I'm still figuring out how to do marketing, but I built it from the ground up and I'll leave my very first post on Instagram. I'll leave them up there, which you see a lot of people that are, have hundreds of thousands of followers and every post looks perfect.
I'm like, no, go take a look at mine on Instagram. I'll leave it there on purpose to show that we all start somewhere. I sucked and I still do some posts that are like, oh, why did I post that? That was terrible. But it's it's just getting out there and starting and doing it. And if somebody like me can write a book by hand, learn how to use a computer, get a publisher.
My book launched on the today show and became a [01:06:00] bestseller in three different categories. And I went on to do the doctors, TV, hallmark, a Ted talk. Now I've shared the stage with Mel Robbins. Jay Shetty, Brendon Burchard, some of my favorite people, Trent Shelton. And so if someone like me can do this, anybody you're listening right now, if you've got a book in you, like 80% of people want to write a book, this is your sign.
Write a book, just start writing every day and focus on why it is. You want to write that book and. Who knows where it can connect you. I'm so grateful that the best thing that's come out of my book are the connections that I've made along the way. Like I would have never met you. Had I not written my book.
I'm sure. I would never, probably wouldn't even be using a laptop or a computer. Yeah. So do it go write the book, go after your dreams. Life is short and I feel like we need to live full out and decide every day that we're going to find joy in the [01:07:00] journey and really live our purpose and our passion.
Hala Taha: [01:07:05] Oh my gosh. This is so one of the most inspiring episodes. I feel like we've ever had on Young and Profiting, but I keep feeling like crying. I just cause I'm so proud of you. I'm so proud that you got over all these things and you followed your dreams and you didn't listen to the naysayers. And I think back to my story, how, 2018, I wanted to start Young And Profiting podcasts, and everybody told me, what are you doing?
You're ruining your life. You're following an old dream. You're never going to be able to do it. You're going to ruin your career. You're ruining your life. And thank God I just did it, and didn't listen to anyone and figured it out and learned it on my own. There wasn't office hours on clubhouse back then I learned it on my own and you can learn anything on your own.
Amberly Lago: [01:07:47] Yeah. And I think, I feel like we're a lot alike in what we've overcome. Your story's different than mine, but our mindset and our grit is so [01:08:00] similar and what you have built. And I know you had some naysayers and you were dealt some cards that were like, really? I worked my ass off and this is what I get.
But I think every hard situation that you've been through two has led you, is giving you the grit and has led you to where you are today. And I think it also does. Do you feel like it makes you appreciate where you are today? Even?
Hala Taha: [01:08:30] I feel like the reason why I'm so hardworking and just attack every day is cause like nothing was ever handed to me.
Like nothing was ever, I was never like just picked for something and was like, luck. Like never, like it's especially with my name and everything like that, I was, it's actually been a fight to get anything good in my life. Only recently now I'm being really accepted, just the last year since podcasts magazine was the first time I felt like I [01:09:00] ever got something where I was like, wow I'm not sure if I was exactly ready for this.
They really gave me this really nice look like this. That was the first time I ever actually felt like I got something. Not easy, but wow, I was actually given this award you know what I mean? Or like this opportunity, that's the first time I ever felt like I got an opportunity.
Amberly Lago: [01:09:18] You worked your ass off for that. I know work. You put in the work every day. And a lot of people, that, that listened to your podcast, they might not know they don't do a podcast on their own, just all the behind the scenes that goes on in and bring in an episode every week. And you release so many episodes, but I just, I, the reason I say I really, I look to you for podcasting because you're such an inspiration and what you have created and what you've done.
And. And what you're doing for [01:10:00] so many women out there that you're that, or you're giving them. And I was just talking to my youngest daughter about this last night because my husband and her kind of got in a little argument and he shut her down and I was like wait a minute. Nope, she's expressing her opinion.
And so we had a big family talk around the dinner table, but we got in the car. I love our car rides, my daughter and I, because that's when we have our, like really our deep conversations. And I was like, Ruby, I'm really proud of you for having a voice and for sharing how you feel. I said, I want you to always speak up and know how powerful your voice is and that's what you do for, many Hala, you really you're. You're incredible. And I've just been so inspired by your clubhouse rooms. I want to get in on clubhouse with you again soon and your podcasts. And so it's just such a joy to be here with you and [01:11:00] connect with you and your audience is incredible.
Hala Taha: [01:11:03] And really, I feel the same way about you guys.
You have to go check out her podcast. That's called True Grit and Grace. And really the last question that I ask all my guests, and this is your opportunity to give a piece of advice that maybe we haven't covered yet. What is your secret to profiting in life?
Amberly Lago: [01:11:19] My secret to profiting in life is really having my priorities.
In place and knowing what my values are because to me, profiting is not just about money. It's about your health, it's about your relationships. And so I feel like when you know, what your values are, it helps you make decisions a little easier. And when you know what your priorities are, it helps you put your yourself on your to-do list.
And when you can take care of yourself, then you can help others [01:12:00] and you can take care of your family and your clients. And so I think that just really take a moment to write down what your values are, what your priorities are, because those slip me sometimes. Cause a lot of things come up. I'm like, oh, that looks fun.
Yeah. I want to do that. I want to do that. I want to do that. And it's no, what is the plan? How am I going to best profit for my pocket book for my health, for my family. And so I think it's really important to always go back to what your values and your, and have integrity with that.
Hala Taha: [01:12:33] I totally agree.
100% such great advice. And where can our listeners go to learn more about you and everything that you do?
Amberly Lago: [01:12:39] Oh, thank you. You can go to amberleylago.com. I hang out mostly on Instagram at Amberley Lago motivation, and I've got some free downloadables in there in my link, and you can find my podcasts and everything online.
They're a true grit and grace, my book is true grit and grace. My clubhouse room is true grit [01:13:00] and grace. And if you want to text me if there's someone out there, cause I know we went deep today. I know if there's somebody out there and you want to text me and you don't want to DM me on Instagram. You can text me at 8 1 8 2 1 4 7 3 7 8.
Especially if you're going through something hard and haven't shared it. Like we talked about a lot of trauma. So I, my favorite thing is connecting with people. So I look forward to hearing from you and I will definitely, I'm going to share this and shout it off the rooftops that I got to be on your podcast.
I'm so grateful.
Hala Taha: [01:13:35] Thank you so much. Amberley, what a great conversation. I think you've motivated so many people. I personally feel like I'm ready to attack the day. So thank you so much for your amazing words of wisdom. We have so much to learn from you. Definitely go check out her podcast True Grit and Grace. Her book
True Grit and Grace. She is brilliant. Follow her on social media. Always a pleasure. Thank you. Wow. That Amberly Lago really has some grit. She went through [01:14:00] so much sexual abuse, a tragic car accident, and she came out the other side winner. You just can't beat the person who won't give up that day. When her life got turned upside down and she was hit by an SUV, must've been so tough.
At the time her face was plastered all over infomercial products. She was working for Nike. She just married the man of her dreams. The world was at her feet and boom, everything changed. It makes me feel so thankful for being healthy and whole right now, life can transform at any moment, no matter how successful you are.
So just make sure you value every single day. Like it's your last. And I feel grateful today. Seriously, breathe, take a moment and just feel grateful for where you are right now for the status of your health right now. Because guys, as we get older, our health is only going to get worse. And so just really, I really want everyone to feel grateful for where they're at right now, their [01:15:00] physical, their mental, their financial status, just be grateful.
And the next time you do face an obstacle, remember Amberley and her story. She was a fitness trainer. She her purpose was to help people be fit healthy. And then she became dependent and disabled. Most people would just give up at that point and just be like, okay, I'm done throwing in the towel. Life's over.
But no, she decided that she was going to shift her mindset. She decided she was going to focus on what she still can do. She believed she could walk again, despite what other people said, and it takes willingness, the termination and grit to go against the odds. And she did it all with a smile on her face.
And I honestly think there's very few things in life that can't be accomplished without a lot of hard work and a positive attitude. So that's my biggest takeaway for today. And if you're in the mood to keep hearing inspiring stories, check out number 95, tap into a miracle mindset with Tim Storey. He's an acclaimed author, speaker and life coach to top [01:16:00] athletes and celebrities like Oprah.
Here's a clip from that episode.
Tim Storey: [01:16:04] I love young people's energy and I'm surrounded by young people who work with me on projects, like from 17, 18 on cause I love their creative energy, but I think this is one thing that draws them to me. We have people from all over the world trying to come to us in LA. To do an internship with us because they love my discipline.
And the whole idea is dreaming is easy. But to do the dream is a whole different thing. Walt Disney walked into an amusement park in the thirties, and he said, one day, I want to build my own amusement park. Mine's going to be different, better and more magical. The thing about Walt Disney that I love is that as I began to study him, his work ethic was at the next level.
So he really practiced these principles of the law of the harvest that [01:17:00] you described, which is if you want a harvest, if you want to create Disneyland, as he did in the sixties, after he saw the vision of it, you first have to plow the ground. Then you have to plant the right seed. Then you have to water the seeds.
That's every single day you're hustling and then you're going to reap a harvest. But then the proverb says, if you chase fantasies, then you lack wisdom. And you're right. We have a lot of people, even my age that are still chasing fantasies to this day, but you got to plow, you got to plant. You got a water and then payday's on its way.
Hala Taha: [01:17:42] Again, that's number 95, tap into a miracle mindset with Tim Storey. And honestly, guys, this is one of my favorite episodes on the podcast. It's one of my all time favorites. And a lot of people reached out about how much they loved that episode. And as always, I'm going to shout out a recent apple podcast review this week, shout [01:18:00] out, goes to Z milks.
And by the way, guys put your real name in the review because apple podcast usernames are so random. Sometimes for example, like Zemo folks that might be the listeners real name, but I'm not positive and I'm almost positive that's not their real name. So I really want to be able to properly shout you guys out.
So please leave your real name in your review. All right. So the review goes like this favorite podcast I discovered this year. This is a great listen. I haven't missed a show since the Seth Godin interview, the host Hala dives into interesting topics. And doesn't ask the same question. I've heard popular guests asked hundreds of times on other interviews.
I actually discovered this on YouTube and not LinkedIn like other reviewers. And I recommend the video version for those on YouTube. It's really well produced and has connected me to other interesting content on there. Looking forward to more shows. Thanks Hala. Oh, wow. Thank you so much XE for mentioning YouTube.
I just realized that I almost never mentioned YouTube on the show, so oops. [01:19:00] You guys can check out the video podcasts on YouTube. We put them up every single week. So if you guys want to check out me interviewing Matthew McConaughey or Seth Goden, like Z was just mentioning, go check us out on YouTube.
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